How to tell someone you aren't into them without hurting them

A friend (girl) once asked me how do I tell a boy that I am not into him without hurting his feeling?

The unfortunate truth is that no matter how you say it, a rejection is a rejection, and he will probably be hurt. What you don’t want to do is to reject him in an overly mean way,or string him along because you don’t want to hurt his feelings, and end up wasting his time . To let him down gently but firmly, make it about you, not about him.

 You can say something like “I’m just not interested in you in a romantic way,” or “I don’t feel the chemistry/spark between us,” Think twice before saying, “I’m not ready to date right now,” or “I would rather be friends,” unless you truly want him to stick around as a friend. He may decide that waiting for you to change your mind is his best chance. Don’t ignore him, or give wishy washy answers.

 Don’t lie(make up an imaginary boyfriend), etc unless you are certain that he won’t find out  the truth. Although rejecting in person is considered the polite thing to do, you can also send him a friendly and thoughtful text/e-mail (especially if you don’t know him that well).

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